Taking Action for Myself: Embracing Independence When Others Fall Short

There comes a time when you realize that waiting on others to fulfill your needs, despite promises and reassurances, can lead to disappointment. For me, this lesson has been learned over time, after countless instances of relying on others only to be let down. When I ask for something and get put on the back burner, it’s no longer a surprise; it’s become the norm. But instead of allowing disappointment to settle in my spirit, I’ve chosen to take action, to empower myself by getting things done on my own terms.

Why I Choose to Take Charge

I used to believe that people would prioritize my requests just as I prioritize theirs. When someone asks me for help or support, I’m quick to respond, showing up with a giving heart and a commitment to fulfill their needs without delay. However, that energy is often not reciprocated. While I’m making things happen for others in real-time, my own requests are met with excuses and delays. I realized I had two choices: continue waiting and feeling disappointed or take control and make it happen myself. I chose the latter.

Avoiding Disappointment by Being My Own Solution

When I express a need and someone promises to handle it, yet fails to follow through, I no longer wait. I’ve learned to respect my own needs by doing things for myself. When someone finally asks if I still need their help, I simply tell them, “I’ve already taken care of it.” This response isn’t to be petty; it’s about preserving my peace and ensuring my needs are met without unnecessary waiting and frustration.

I’ve also noticed how liberating it feels to not depend on others, especially when that dependency can lead to letdowns. Making it happen for myself has brought a new level of freedom. I’m in control of my life and my happiness, knowing that I won’t be held back by someone else’s timetable or priorities.

A Message for the “Helpers” Who Don’t Deliver

For anyone reading this who tends to delay when others reach out for help, consider this: the person asking may be reaching out after a string of letdowns, finally hoping you’ll come through. If you can’t fulfill a request, be honest about it. It’s more helpful to say no than to say yes and not follow through.

The Power in Independence

If you’ve found yourself feeling overlooked or like your needs are an afterthought, I encourage you to take matters into your own hands. By making things happen for ourselves, we reclaim our time, our energy, and our peace. Being independent in this way isn’t about being closed off; it’s about knowing our worth and treating our needs as a priority, just as we do for others.

In the end, the most empowering decision I’ve made is to take care of myself. I’ll continue to do so unapologetically.